The feeling of rejection is indescribable. Nobody likes it, not even George Clooney, so he dumps everyone before they even have the chance to do that to him. Being rejected feels like someone just came over and slapped your face with a trout, kicked you down the stairs into cow poop, pointed and laughed at you. With everybody else watching.
Rejection comes in many ways. Through a polite decline, a let down after a few dates, or a giant heart break after years and years of relationships. These are the small bricks that make a wall, and the wall has a name. It’s called the Fear of Getting Screwed Over.
The Fear of Getting Screwed Over often becomes the only sole reason on why we will never take a leap of faith. Movies make it seem so simple. By the end of the plot, everything is said and done. Feelings are confessed at the airport or train station and they all live happily ever after. Sadly, in real life, The Fear of Getting Screwed Over will overwhelm us so badly that we end up never saying how we really feel, and as a result we let it marinate inside us until one day, it was time to move on.
Did the Fear of Getting Screwed Over get to me? I’m sure it did, as for the most of us. I realized this as I find myself hesitating a lot nowadays, whereas years ago, when I was fresh into this crazy whirlpool of the relationship world, I was very keen on taking chances. Sometimes, even watching other people get screwed over is enough to create that fear in you.
Guys I know tell me that the Fear of Getting Screwed Over scratches the ego pretty deep. Women I know would tell me that the Fear of Getting Screwed Over kills the bravery of ever making a move (and I would agree). Most of us have no problems encouraging other people to go on, but when it comes to our own selves, we chicken out.
Come to think of it, like anything else in life, sometimes the only thing that’s standing between us and what we want is our own selves. We are what we have to beat.