How would you feel if your ex-boyfriend gets married?
I've heard of this one a million times before. I had girlfriends talking about it for hours during lunch, and while I would nod and say 'I understand, honey' the truth is I really didn't. So what if your ex gets married? It's not like you'll ever get together again. And it's not like you still have feelings for them.
Then one fine day I went through my Facebook account, looked through the news feed and there it was.
"John Doe (my ex) has changed his status from 'single' to 'engaged ' ."
Four things happened to me at once.
First, I was shocked. So much so that I ended up staring at that bloody page for more than two minutes.
Second, I thought to myself, wait a minute, but he loved me first and didn't he use to take me out to nice romantic dinners and flew cross country to see me?
Third, I frantically used all search engines to find this other girl. I hoped she has only one good eye. Or maybe a strangely large nose. Or maybe she's as boring as a stick. But I couldn't find even a piece of information of her (yes, even after I asked my girls to stalk him and I went searching on Facebook for hours).
Fourth, I sat back and stared at the 'no results found' on Facebook. Why am I doing this? What kind of satisfaction will this ever give me? Then I recalled myself saying to a friend a few months back when she was faced with the same ordeal. So what if your ex gets married?
What do you mean, so what? He used to be with me. It was me first. I know it's unlikely we'll get back together, but the thought of him finally getting married, walking off to the sunset with the girl of his dreams, it drives me crazy up the wall. I can't quite explain why.
Oh wait a minute. This is exactly what they were talking about during those long lunch hours. I said I didnt understand, so maybe now fate is just slapping my face with a big trout to finally make me get it.
"Honey, don't be that girl," Hana, my close friend, said over the phone.
But the truth is, there is that girl in all of us. So the next time you want to judge another person for being silly over it, think twice.